I have never been in love. Because love isn’t a feeling, or an experience, or some magical spell. Love is a sacrifice. A sacrifice that I was never willing to make because I didn’t understand the nature of it.
These days, people look for love with the desire to be filled. But love is the opposite. Love is when you meet someone you care about so much, that you desire to empty yourself & fill them. And if that is mutual, that is love. A constant giving & receiving… but giving comes first.
Then it dawned on me, that this isn’t even just romantic love. We are called to love others. All the others, ALL of them. Constantly emptying ourselves & giving to those around us. Will someone hurt you along the way? For sure. Will it seem worth it? Not at first. But the irony will come when you find how happy you are. In fact, that will be when you realize that happiness doesn’t come when you set out to build yourself paradise, it comes every time you give a fruit, a seed, or plot of land to someone else. It is achieved by giving..